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Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners—And How to Break the Cycle

20 February 2025 by
Arbena memon

The Pain: Stuck in a Loop of Unfulfilling Relationships

Have you ever found yourself saying, “Why do I always attract emotionally unavailable people?” or “Why do I keep ending up in toxic relationships?”

You’re not alone. Many people struggle with this exact problem, falling into the same destructive patterns over and over again. No matter how hard you try, you seem to keep attracting partners who:

Pull away emotionally just when you start getting attached.

Are inconsistent—one day, they’re into you; the next, they’re distant.

Make you feel like you have to prove your worth or “earn” their love.

Repeat the same toxic behaviors you swore you’d never tolerate again.

And maybe worst of all, when you finally decide to leave, the cycle just repeats itself with someone new.

It’s exhausting. It’s painful. And it can make you question whether real, healthy love is even possible.

But the truth is, this isn’t about bad luck. It’s about subconscious programming.

The Desired Outcome: A Relationship That Feels Safe, Secure, and Fulfilling

Now, imagine this instead:

💖 You’re in a relationship where you feel valued, loved, and emotionally safe.

💖 You don’t have to second-guess whether someone truly cares about you.

💖 You are deeply connected with a partner who is emotionally available, consistent, and committed.

Sounds like a dream? It doesn’t have to be.

The key to attracting this kind of love isn’t about finding the “right” person—it’s about becoming the version of yourself that naturally attracts the right kind of love.

Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners (It’s Not Just a Coincidence)

Most people think bad relationships are just about making bad choices. But what if I told you that your subconscious mind is controlling who you’re attracted to—without you even realizing it?

Here’s the reality:

🧠 Your subconscious seeks familiarity, not happiness. If you grew up in an environment where love felt uncertain, conditional, or inconsistent, your subconscious mind equates that to normal. You will unconsciously gravitate toward relationships that feel the same—because that’s what feels familiar.

💭 You attract what you believe you deserve. If deep down, you carry limiting beliefs like “I’m not worthy of love,” “Love means struggle,” or “I have to prove myself to be loved,” you will keep drawing in people who reinforce these beliefs.

💔 Unhealed wounds keep repeating until you heal them. If you have unresolved childhood wounds, your subconscious will continue seeking partners who trigger those same wounds—not to punish you, but because it’s trying to resolve them.

This means that until you rewire your subconscious programming, you will continue attracting the same painful relationships, no matter how hard you try to do things differently.

The Secret to Breaking the Cycle: Aligning Your Conscious and Subconscious

Most relationship advice focuses on surface-level changes: setting boundaries, spotting red flags, or choosing “better” partners. But these things don’t work if your subconscious mind is still wired for the old patterns.

Real change happens when you align your conscious and subconscious mind.

Through hypnosis, cognitive reprogramming, and deep emotional work, you can:

✔️ Shift your attachment style from anxious or avoidant to secure.

✔️ Rewrite the limiting beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic patterns.

✔️ Attract emotionally available partners by radiating self-worth and confidence.

✔️ Heal past wounds so that healthy love feels natural, not foreign.

And this is exactly what we do in the 6-Week Signature Relationship Coaching Program.

Break Free from Toxic Patterns—For Good

If you’re ready to finally stop attracting the wrong partners and experience the deep, fulfilling love you deserve, this program is for you.

🔹 What You’ll Get:

✅ 6 weeks of deep transformational coaching to rewire your subconscious patterns.

Hypnosis and subconscious work to clear out emotional blocks.

Practical tools and strategies to attract and maintain a healthy relationship.

Ongoing support so you don’t fall back into old habits.

🚀 Join the 6-Week Signature Coaching Program and transform your relationships from the inside out.

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If You Can’t Join Right Now, Here’s What You Can Do for Free

I understand that not everyone can join a coaching program right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start making changes today. Here are 4 powerful steps you can take right now to begin rewiring your subconscious patterns:

1️⃣ Journal your past relationships. Write down what went wrong, what patterns you notice, and how each relationship made you feel. Awareness is the first step to breaking the cycle.

2️⃣ Affirm new beliefs daily. Replace “I have to earn love” with “I am worthy of love just as I am.” Write it down. Say it out loud. Repeat it until your subconscious starts believing it.

3️⃣ Practice self-hypnosis. Spend 5 minutes visualizing yourself in a secure, healthy relationship. The brain doesn’t know the difference between real and imagined experiences—so this is a powerful way to rewire your patterns.

4️⃣ Set one new boundary today. Whether it’s saying no to someone who doesn’t respect your time or expressing your needs openly, practice honoring yourself in relationships.

Even small steps can create huge shifts. But if you’re ready for deep, lasting transformation, I’m here to guide you.

The Choice is Yours

You can continue repeating the same relationship patterns, or you can take control and rewrite your love story—starting today.

The question is: Are you ready?

🚀 Click here to sign up for the 6-Week Signature Coaching Program.